What would you do if you were in my shoe?

Three months ago a girl called on my cell-phone and told me that she want to be my friend. I was reluctant at that time but, I agreed on the next day when she calls again. That girl become a good friend and, we call each other almost every day and talk things that we both enjoy.We have many things in common but she has told me that she is a different religion believer.The most interesting part is I am almost falling for her now.I don't know what I have to do now.


If any body in the family finds out that I'm having a relation with such a girl,it will be the end of the world for me.They are very strict when it comes to religion.


I'm really worried and don't know what I have to do.Do you think I have to tell her every thing and continue with her and let the things with my family get flamed?


Plz,I need your advice.

What would you do if you were in my shoe?
This is a tough question. You didn't mention your age at all which only matters becouse of maturity. Religion should not be a prejudice for people but often it becomes one becouse of the moral issues. Your parents have tried to raise you to embrace their beliefs and their values and virtues. This girl maybe the greatest person on earth and you should be able to persue a relationship with her on your own judgement but realistically your parents will have an impact. If you are a young teenager you have a lot of years to establish relationships and explore your beliefs and in the meantime you need to live with your folks. Can you be okay with sneaking around with this girl? How might that effect your homelife or your relationship with the girl. Personally I'd be honest with my folks and with your friend and try to give your parents sensible reasons for your relationship. You sound like a great guy and I have a feeling lying or hiding from your folks will only hurt you.
Reply:Of course that depends to some degree upon your age. If you still depend upon your family to support you then they do have a right to some input on this. If you are independent then you have a right to make your own decisions. If your religion is one which you are forced to comply with that is a problem within itself. If you are in fact getting serious with this girl then you should be open and honest with her.
Reply:If you really care for this person it would be in the best interest for you both to be up honest. It's a huge possibility that if you both are in different religions that it will cause division later on between the both of you if neither of you is willing to change.
Reply:You need to determine if the religion issue is more important for you. And maybe if you talk to them and compromise on the religion thing it will work out.
Reply:Are you living your life for you or for your family? That's the question. Who is this girl? Did you know her before she phoned or was it an accident that you spoke? Have you met her yet? If you haven't, you should. It's easy to fall for a voice on a phone, it's totally different to meet them in person. Take it slowly before you make a decision.
Reply:to be honest and realistic you have to tell them about this girl because they are and WERE your world before this girl.
Reply:Honesty is always the best policy. And...just because your parents choice of religion is correct for them...maybe it is not right for you? And what type of girl is this...is she really not your type, either? I know I didn't really give you advice, but I need more information. I wish you the best of luck
Reply:If you really like the girl and think she could be the one, I would say be with her. But if family is more important then your own happiness then tell her. I think religion should not matter as long as you both love each other and there are ways to work it out. Good Luck.
Reply:Perhaps start dating her...Get to know her better in terms of personality.





She might be a very good person after all; one that your family would appreciate.








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Reply:You cannot fall for anyone you have not met. Where did she get your number in the first place, I would be concerned about that and ask her. I would stop talking to her. That is a pretty strange situation and she is probably trying to get information from you for a scam or something. Has she given you any information about herself? I would start asking for that, start asking questions, it is probably just someone you know playing tricks on you.
Reply:Well I feel when it comes to religion, if you don't draw a person to think like you do, then more than likely they'll draw you to think like them. So you have to be careful with who you're hanging out with that is if you have a certain standard that you're trying to uphold.
Reply:I wouldn't give up on the relationship, although it is too soon to know if she is "the one" and it is worth it to get into a family battle over it.





I would be honest with my family. Tell them you have a friend and introduce her to them. Let them know about her religion, once they meet her, they may become more open minded.
Reply:Family doesn't need to know everything immediately. Have the two of you ever met in person?





I would wait to tell your family until you have met, and gone on actual dates, and know without a doubt that she is the ONE.





If she is indeed the one for you, then it will be worht inflaming your family, and who knows, maybe they'll come around...
Reply:u dont need to tell ur family everything, its none of their business what religion she is



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